Buddy

The other night, I did some reading about Maria Elena Holly. Yes... That Maria... Buddy Holly's widow. The end of "The Buddy Holly Story" was on TV, and it got me asking some questions: Is Maria still alive? (Yes). What about the child she was carrying? What about the Crickets, what happened to them? How wonderfully Gary Busey "become" the innovative performer known for his thick, southern drawl, "hiccup" sorta sound and those trademark, black rimmed glasses. I fell in love with him when I was just a little girl. I always wondered why he had to die so young. Why did any of them have to die? The now infamous Winter Dance Party Tour, the bitterly cold weather, the bus that kept breaking down. Tragic. Simply tragic.

Maria Holly, his widow, is still alive and well, and living in Texas (but not in Lubbock). I believe the article I read said she was living in Dallas somewhere. However, don't quote me on that, because I'm not positive. Maria was indeed pregnant when Buddy left to go on tour... And did not return. Apparently the shock and grief of losing him caused her to miscarry. Maria has never seen her husband's grave marker, that bares the family name "Holley.". Buddy changed the spelling of his name to match a typo he found.

"I refuse to think of him as being six feet under," she said.

Maria was re-married and then divorced. She then re-claimed her name "Holly.". Every year, on their wedding anniversary (August 15th), Maria has red roses sent to her home. She says that for years now, she has attempted to help the city of Lubbuck erect something in memorium to her late husband. For some reason, they have not responded. Maria says that the people of Lubbock, while being devoted to Buddy's memory... are not supportive of her. Apparently, even Buddy's older brothers (he has two) are not supportive of Buddy's widow because she still today has control of Holly's name (is it the spelling they don't like?). Anyway, I never could have appreciated Buddy Holly nearly as much, were it not for the 1978 Gary Busey film, "The Buddy Holly Story.". I've heard that there actually are many inaccuracies in the story itself; but Busey's performance as the fallen rock & roll genius is unforgettable. I'm glad this movie was made, and I do hope that any disagreements over Buddy Holly and his name, and his widow Maria, can be ironed out.

Love

The Wizard (Frank Morgan) to the Tin Man (Jack Haley): "...AND REMEMBER, MY SENTIMENTAL FRIEND, THAT A HEART IS NOT JUDGED BY HOW MUCH YOU LOVE, BUT BY HOW MUCH YOU ARE LOVED BY OTHERS." --THE WIZARD OF OZ (1939)

It Takes Time

MASK (1985)
Directed by Peter Bogdanavich.

RockY Dennis (Eric Stultz) and his mother Rusty Dennis (Cher):

(Rocky on his first day in high school)

Rocky: "I don't wanna go mom."

Rusty: "Then don't go."

Rocky: "I gotta go."

Rusty: "Then go."

Rocky: "This is just as easy for you to say mom; I mean, you're not the one who's gonna have kids runnin' in the other direction when they see ya makin' fun of ya."

Rusty: "Yeah, and when they stop running and stop making fun, they'll get to know ya and think you're terrific, just like at your other school. You know, it takes time for people to get to like each other; I don't know why you think it should be different for you."

Rocky: "But I am different mom."
Rusty: "Yeah-- you're more beautiful on the inside than most people. Anybody can't see that..."

Rocky: "Screw 'em."

Rusty: "Right-- spoken like the true son of a red headed woman."

The Director:

Noises Off (1991) Directed by Peter Bogdanovitch.

Lloyd Fellowes, on his way in to see the show he's directing:

Usher: "Sir... is there something wrong with your seat?

Lloyd (Michael Caine): "Yeah, it's facing the stage"

Crushes.

"Sixteen Candles" 1984

Sam (Molly Ringwald) with her dad Jim (Paul Dooley):


Dad: Sam?... Sweetheart?

Sam: Daddy?

Dad: Hey kiddo.

Sam: What's wrong?

Dad: Nothing. Everything's fine. I was just upstairs and I couldn't sleep. I feel like a real jerk honey... we forgot your birthday. (he pause as sam grins) I bet you're really P.O'd, huh?

Sam: No, it's okay...I'm not really all that upset anymore.

Dad: This wedding is really...turning this entire house inside out... and I just came down to tell you that we did remember.

Sam: Thanks Dad.

Dad: Happy birthday. (he turns to go upstairs, but stops) Is something else wrong?

Sam: No, why?

Dad: I don't know, I just get the feeling that something's bothering you-- something other than your birthday.

Sam: No I'm fine... really.

Dad: (he sits on the sofa) I think I know what it is. It has to do with a certain guy? (Sam sits up and embraces him) I know honey, I know... we're all upset that Jenny's marrying a beau hunk. (Sam pulls away and goes back on her pillow) What's a matter?

Sam: I meant Jake.

Dad: Jake? Wait a minute, I thought she said his name was Rudy?

Sam: Forget it.

Dad: Forget what? Who's Jake?

Sam: He's a boy daddy, it's nothing, okay... just forget it, please.

Dad: Come on Sam, we're not communicating.

Sam: It's extremely embarrassing, okay?

Dad: What's embarrassing?

Sam: Sitting in the dark with your dad, telling him about your love life.

Dad: I'm afraid you've lost me again Sam.

Sam: Jake is a senior, and he's beautiful and perfect... I like him a real lot, and he doesn't like me, okay?

Dad: Oh.

Sam: And he's got this incredible girlfriend-- I'm just this ridiculous dork who's following them around like a puppy.

Dad: Well why do you think you're a dork? I don't think you're a dork. I don't think mom thinks you're a dork.

Sam: Mike thinks I'm a dork.

Dad: Mike is a dork.

Sam: Well so am I.

Dad: Well, if it's any consolatiion, I love you. And if this guy can't see in you all the beautiful and wonderful things that I see, then he's got the problem.

Sam: I know, it just hurts.

Dad: That's why they call them crushes... if they were easy... they'd call 'em somthin' else.

Sam: Yeah, but if I were Jenny, I'd have this guy crawling on his knees.

Dad: Well let me tell you something about Jenny: now I love her as much as I love you, but, she's a different person. Sometimes I worry about her. You know, when you're given things kind of easily, you don't always appreciate them; but with you I'm not worried. When it happens to you Samantha... it'll be forever. Well, I don't think I'll be able to sleep if I don't feel this little talk has helped you... so, would you be a sport and lie to me?

Sam: Yeah, sure daddy.

Dad: Goodnight sweetheart.

Sam: Goodnight.

(Her dad turns to go up stairs)

Dad: Oh, one more thing sweetheart...

Sam: What.

Dad When you do find the right guy... don't let him boss you around. Make sure he knows... YOU ware the pants in the family.

Feelings

"Ordinary People" 1980

Dr. Burger (Judd Hirsch) to Conrad Jared (Timothy Hutton):
(on dealing with his brother's death)

"Let me tell you something about feeling, kiddo: Don't always expect it to tickel."

Minding Your Own Business

"It's a Mad Mad Mad Mad World" 1963

Melville Crump (sid Caesar) Monica Crump (Edie Adams) and the cab driver (Peter Falk)
(Arriving at the State Park to search for the money):

Cab Driver: Hey, what's with the pick and shovel?

Melville: Never mind your own business!! Come on Monica!